THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN LONELINESS AND HUMAN MOTIVATION

One of the reasons why your motivation is draining

Motivation is an extremely essential aspect in the pursuance of corporate and personal goals, such that the journey through the process isn’t necessarily easier but becomes worth doing. 

It's true that different people develop motivation from different sources, but the effects of motivation will drain quickly when a person is experienceing loneliness. 

A good instance is this, a task which would usually take a small amount of time to execute by a motivated person might end up becoming long overdue or might not be completed at all after twice or more of the time expected has elapsed when loneliness is present. Loneliness can occur even when in the midst of other people because it’s psychological in nature, hence, a group of people can be in the same room and receive the same amount of external motivation from maybe a talk session or a presentation of some sort. But a person experiencing loneliness could be less motivated than every other person in the room.  

One of the brain's way of motivating us to do the things we need to do is by making our minds feel restless. As explained by Brian Tracy in his book, "Goals", there is a satisfaction that comes from achieving what we need and our bodies will put certain signals forward to us if we seem to be lacking behind. This is one of the reasons why we tend to be somewhat attracted to people who seem busy with their work or always have something going on in their lives. 

With this in mind, we could predict that loneliness, sometimes already developing into depression, might be setting in when a person begins to care less about the things and people that are important in their lives.

THE STORY NIGERIANS TELL BUT ISN'T BEING LISTENED TO

Thoughts about the state of Nigeria as at the date of this publication.

This is a story, a story written by a sympathizing Nigerian.

The nature of things so far as concerning becoming an adult has been excruciating. I see too many reasons legible enough for why most adult Nigerians should always be angry. My country has been a contributing factor to many of those reasons. The system in Nigeria serves like an amplifier, and a high percentage of everything that involves the government almost feels like you’re in a torturing machine where the leaders are the operators, and they conduct this operation without mercy or a trace of sympathy. There’s no doubt that I would take my opportunity to have myself spend some time away from the system and just be somewhere else that's better. I consider the fact that there are places and third world countries probably experiencing worse than what mine is, that doesn’t mean that we deserve what’s happening.

There are also countries smaller than mine and not a resourcefully endowed as Nigeria but are trailing far better explorations than we are. The truth is that there has not been the most significant changes and improvements in the sectors that most matter when considering the development of a nation. I might not be wrong if I said that the success of my country is being deliberately hindered by a set of no-good people who forget that they are also humans and will one day be committed to the same place where both wealthy and those poor who lost their lives due to starvation or some sort of crisis because of the ripple effects of their inhumane actions are laid no matter how fancy the box in which they're placed is, or how glamorous the complimenting ceremony might be.

There are laws of the universe that no man can escape, one of which is the rule of sowing and reaping. Although a lot of power drunk individuals may have found a way to postpone the hand of Kamar, but surely, it'll reach out to them and everyone will get their fair share of the reality on which this life is built.

My advice to any Nigerian, especially those still young and who have at one time in their life had the thought of leaving their country is that you do not hesitate to do better. If the opportunity to explore other countries is within your reach, do well to play your cards to the end, though not at the expense of any other Nigerian or non-Nigerian. You get the point.

It is being said that my country will become better, but before it does, you can find success and security somewhere else, for you and for your family members if you can. There’s nothing wrong with having the ambitions of living a better life and eventually following through with it. On another hand, some Nigerians may say that what the future holds for them can only be found here in Nigeria, which is totally agreeable, as of course not everyone will travel or decide to stay outside their country even if she is perfect. There are plenty of reasons in collaboration with factors that can be placed in the cross hairs as to why a Nigerian is better off in Nigeria.

I also believe that in the appropriate conditions and economic situations, some that are called poor in my country will no doubt be some of the best in society. Have you seen Nigerians work hard? Then you should have no doubt about this as well, put aside the talk of "work smart not hard". Even the smartest ideas are birth from intense input of hard work if we look closely. My point is, Nigerians work hard enough to be recognized as some of the most industrious people in the world, but our glory is hidden or disregarded as a result of a general negative image that the world has been presented with because of situations too many to even discuss, and most of which can be directly traced to the sort of leaders that have held the sceptre of power over the past years.

If you’re a Nigerian who is already reaping from the seeds and hard work you’ve sown or however it happens that you’re able to at least provide for yourself and those you love, to an extent, then we should be grateful because I can bet you know people who are unable to live life at a quality that’s halfly compared to yours.

The feeling for plenty of Nigerians about being a Nigerian is this, for the fact that we were born here, its as though we’ve offended someone already. A lot of other countries already label Nigerians with detestable identities. But thank God for those that don't.

As an average Nigerian, it would be a privilege if you had a friend who was non-Nigerian. Some persons had the opportunity of making childhood friendships with citizens of other countries, but the average Nigerian does not know how to make friends with someone outside Nigeria, even and especially in this time of global expansion and social integration through the internet and social media, because the negative image of our country has even gotten to us enough to wind down our self esteem.

I wouldn't know exactly how to end this since the story of my country becoming what it is today drives far back, but I can still hope, pray and do my parts as a citizen of my country, especially in this time of knowledge being thoroughly sort after by Nigerians and enlightenment being presented.

God bless my Nigeria.